So my son.. my firstborn.. my oldest... my 7th grader, called me this afternoon stating he was in "Trouble". Trouble? What kind of trouble could this guy get in, "Geek-Squad" trouble, cause I've met his buddies in all his core classes that consists of being in the GT Program (Gifted & Talented)... Did he accidentally plot a parabola the wrong way in his math group and caused a group "raucous"? Not exactly.
Well, as he sat in class, some group of kids brought out this book (which the kid got for Christmas he says?) Well in this book, it depicted obscene language that ridiculed people of different races, calling them names, mocking the different cultures such as the obvious facial features of an Asian versus someone of African American descent...etc. These kids went over to his desk and shared this piece of "information" with him. The teacher heard them, walked over, and they were all instantly sent to the principals office. He sat there throughout lunch and the rest of the afternoon, as the principal and school officials tried to figure out what happened, whose book it was, and try to explain the "rules" of the school.
By the time he reached us, we were enjoying lunch at Moose Tooth, he sounded like he was in tears.. claiming how it wasn't his fault.. and that these kids came to him. Initially, I was upset already and sent "DADDY" to get him.
When they came home, I wondered why they took so long.. come to find out, my husband, was arguing with the Principal about his punishment.. which was a "3 Day In School Suspension" He argued that it was a bit harsh for someone who didn't go looking for trouble. My hubby's response was "What would any 12 or 13 year old do, if a bunch of boys came over to your desk and started showing you a book?" You can bet, that they would look at it." He said. (Roar, Papa Bear) But the principal said, that our son, should have spoken up and told the teacher what they were looking at..
(Oh yeah that's real cool, be the guy that "tattles".. what was he supposed to say, pull up his trousers and push his glasses forward and say in his best Irkel impersonation "Excuse me, young lads, would you mind refraining this inappropriate reading material from the vicinity of my desk, the literature is demeaning to the different ethnicities and I don't appreciate it..)
But the Principal did not back down.. he did get a one day out of school suspension. She wanted to make a point that kids should speak up. But leave it to my hubby (aka Papa Bear) to stay and make sure that the other kids had a more severe punishment (the other kids had 10 Day Suspension) and he did want to see this "book" that this kid brought to school for Show And Tell. He agreed that this book was just awful. And what's even worst, just what were their parents thinking?
So that's my tale for today. I'm learning as I go.. this is our first "almost teenager" and it is hard work.. As a parent I just want to constantly protect him and keep this "Bubble" around him sheltering him from "The World" basically. But I can't, and that thought alone is hard.. The idea that this is just one of the many Peer Pressures he will have to go through. All I can do is teach him how to handle these situations, be there, be honest, and keep the communication going. I can't make these decisions for him and sometimes it's a "Live and Learn" kind of thing. Gosh, I just miss when he was a baby, and the only people that surrounded him were people that loved him and just wanted to protect him from any harm. Why do they have to grow up so fast???